45 ways to encourage a new mum!

1. Buy her something, not the baby!
2. Cook a meal for her, drop it off, do not stay unless she begs you to.
3. Bring said meal in disposable containers to save washing up & stress of returning dish.
4. Pick up her washing, drop it back folded.
5. Place a ‘kit kat’ in the washing, reminding her to ‘take a break’.
6. Don’t ask if there is anything you can do, just do something.
7. Likewise, don’t tell her to call if she needs anything, txt to check if you can bring milk or bread.
8. Offer to watch the baby while she showers or goes for a coffee by herself, with a book.
9. Tell her it does get better and she WILL sleep again.
10. Do not tell her it all goes by so very quickly, so enjoy every minute.
11. Support her choice of feeding. Ie is the baby getting fed? Great, method is irrelevant.
12. Tell her to never feed in front of the TV whilst watching late night tv, especially with her purse close by because it is inevitable she will buy a useless exercise machine from a b grade celeb.
13. Listen to her fears. Acknowledge them. Reassure her she is normal.
14. Tell her to trust her instincts.
15. If she reads baby books, tell her to take what she needs out of them and leave the rest.
16. Fill up water bottles for her and encourage her to drink often
17. Give her a book to read whilst feeding
18. Text her an inspiring message
19. Offer to take photos of HER and the baby
20. Remind her that her body gave life, it doesn’t matter what it looks like, it matters how she feels
21. Reassure her that breakfast can also be dinner!
22. If you visit her and the baby falls asleep. Leave & tell her to have a sleep too.
23. If she has older kids, take them to the park while she has a sleep.
24. Likewise, if these kids go to school & you can do it, offer to do school pick up or drop off
25. Keep it REAL, be honest about what you found hard.
26. Txt, don’t call so you don’t disturb her but tell her to CALL back if she wants to hear a real voice
27. Tell her about Sunny Mummy!
28. Buy her a massage or give her one.
29. Paint her toenails.
30. Laugh, cry, be silent with her.
31. Ask her if she is OK? Really Ok? If she’s not, tell her she will BE OK, then offer to take her to GP
32. Blowdry or straighten her hair, better still, book a hairdresser to come to the house.
33. Tell her its ok if she doesn’t like her mothers group or breastfeeding or visitors.
34. Set up a feeding station for her. Put a jug of water, something pretty, a book, notepad & pen.
35. Encourage her to put her feet up in the afternoon. If she is breastfeeding it helps with supply.
36. Remember to ask DAD how he is too.
37. Buy her a pure, natural, scented candle to encourage relaxation.
38. Remind her that she is more than just a mother, she is a woman with needs to.
39. Let her know it is completely normal to check if your baby is breathing like a possessed person.
40. Remind her to get sunlight & fresh air.
41. Don’t question her  methods. Allow her to figure things out. Of course if she asks, then help.
42. Bring snacks for her such as cut of carrot, celery, cherry tomatoes etc that she can munch on.
43. Tell her pyjama days are totally acceptable but remind her that showering feels good too!
44. Buy her a journal and encourage her to record her thoughts.
45. Tell her she is the perfect mother for HER children!

Here is a video of some perfect mamas after just giving birth…grab some tissues and if you enJOYed this post, please share it so mums, new and old, can get the encouragement we all need!

PS What would YOU add to this list?

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